Sometimes how you look is all you need.

Many times you see people around you, their head held high, their posture erect, and their stride confident. And then you notice how clean cut they are, their clothing well pressed and giving them an air of je ne sais quoi. Oddly enough, as I have found out recently, your clothes can give you a boost in confidence and charisma not found in any other means. Now, I’m not saying that if you dress a certain way you lack these qualities, but the way you look and how you dress can add the spring in your step. Its fairly indescribable, because essentially nothing’s changed except for some articles of clothing or a haircut, or both, and that can be enough. There was no dramatic change, you don’t look incredibly different, but its just enough of a tweak. So what does that mean for you?

Well, take a look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself. Is this really what makes me attractive? Will this get me a guy or a girl? Do you notice people admiring you when you wear your clothes? I’d understand if you were resistant to change, as you probably feel that your clothes are a part of you and an extension of your personality. Well, I’m not telling you to get rid of your “style”, whatever that happens to be. But you can expand on it, grow on it. If you don’t normally wear collared button down shirts, try wearing some. Maybe you wear clothes that are too big for you, or maybe you wear a lot of graphic T’s. Change it up a little.

Gentlemen get the opinion of your female friends, try changing up your wardrobe. If you’re a single man and continue to be single it MIGHT be your clothing. You want to be appealing, attractive, and get the eye of the girl you’re interested in. Don’t lose your identity, just add on to it and women, should you have women friends, are an excellent source of advice. Seek them out and you won’t be disappointed.

Ladies, well, this is a little harder. As you see, me not being a woman, its harder for me to provide the appropriate advice for you other than to talk with your girlfriends and get an HONEST opinion from them. Of course, you ladies are very enabling in that, if you are the attractive one in the group, and don’t lie to yourself you know you identify with being the hot one, you appreciate and try to keep unattractive people around you to make yourself look better and feel better. You need to help those who may not be as “attractive” as you. Should they seek your help, give them positive advice and help them out. You already have the upper hand, so to speak, give them your guidance so that they too can feel attractive.

If you feel you look good already, that’s great, but it doesn’t hurt to change it up every once in awhile. Try it out, and you might see some pretty interesting and positive results.

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Thanks to all of you who check out the site and listen to my show. I deeply appreciate your support and hope you get something meaningful from all of this.

Episode 2 of Geek Love Radio, up and running

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Well, I tried to interview my buddy who’s an ace at getting ladies online, but it didn’t quite work out. Either way, this week’s episode is on asking the person out on a date, and how the internet plays a role in the whole thing.

I also try to give you some suggestions on flirting, and things to say when you get the

There’s also a little reminiscing about the late 90s and early turn of the century and how the internet was back there and how much of a geek I really was back then. I mean, I guess I still am now, but…never mind.

So there’s plenty to learn, and with luck, plenty to apply in your life on this second episode of Geek Love Radio.

Well, I tried to interview my buddy who’s an ace at getting ladies online, but it didn’t quite work out. Either way, this week’s episode is on asking the person out on a date, and how the internet plays a role in the whole thing.

I also try to give you some suggestions on flirting, and things to say when you get the courage to say hello to that special girl or guy.

There’s also a little reminiscing about the late 90s and early turn of the century and how the internet was back there and how much of a geek I really was back then. I mean, I guess I still am now, but…never mind.

So there’s plenty to learn, and with luck, plenty to apply in your life on this second episode of Geek Love Radio.

Episode 2 delayed…

Well, for those few anticipating episode 2, it has been delayed a day due to unforseen circumstances. I discovered chat roulette for the first time, and it was very entertaining. Took up my entire night as you see I’m still awake at 3am. So, tomorrow definitely get it up to for you. Thanks for your understanding.

Yeah she may say, “f*ck you,” but you can always smile and say, “thank you”.

Well, here’s the deal, I may have overreacted yesterday about a lot of things. I’m human, and its one of my many flaws. I can be fairly dramatic when something comes out of left field that I didn’t even see coming. But I do know now, that my accounts have been compromised by my ex, so I had the fun and tedious job of changing all my passwords. It doesn’t pay to use the same passwords for years, I can see that now. So after that debacle, I realized I reacted irrationally. I should have done things differently.

For example, yesterday I was being cussed out on text by my ex about some issue or another, and I handled the situation properly. Now mind you, I did not provoke this attack, nor did I do anything. I was actually just minding my own business, not having talked to her in quite awhile. So she did this on her own accord, possibly to make herself feel better.

If you’re in a similar situation with anyone who starts to cuss you out, and insult you, and try to make you feel less than you normally do, for no apparent reason, they’re in a vulnerable spot. They’re trying to control and manipulate you in some way, and you’re goal is to not get suckered in, and to not try to control them either. You just want to keep it rational, because at this point, the other person is far from rational. So what should you do?

Talk calmly to them, and let them know you appreciate that they’re upset, but only if you mean it. They’re in a tough spot, they’re acting like the child, and they’re taking it out on you. You have to remind yourself that you have no control over how they react towards you. If they hate you, if they’re angry with you, its their problem, not yours. But you should be considerate of their problems, and kindly let them know that you can’t do anything about it or that its out of your hands. Its difficult enough as it is trying to reason with someone who’s already so upset, and has already insulted you. You technically owe them nothing, especially when they don’t even have the courtesy to talk to you in a civilized manner. But what will you achieve from attacking back? Nothing, but an argument that will get you nowhere.

Remember, you’re not trying to make them feel small, or return the insults, you’re just trying to calm them down and not give in. And even if you have to give in for the greater good, it may be for the best. That person is suffering more than you are, and they’re struggling more than you are. That’s why they attacked you. So take it slow, don’t lose your cool, and know that if you’re happy and you’re good, that’s all that matters.

I forgot that for a moment, because my ex is good at making me lose my cool. I am happy, and I’m glad I have what I got, and I’m lucky to be where I am. And no one, not even an angry, troubled woman, can take that away from me.

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